This is the magnitude of the task ahead in all our lives.
The ideas below were used to write an article for LinkedIn: "There is no button for peace."
Attain deeper understanding of emotions — your own and those of others
"The solution has to be found, as Krishnamurti has said, in the problem and not away from it. In other words, the 'bad' man's disturbing emotions and urgent desires have to be seen as they are — or, better, the moment in which they arise has to be seen as it is, without narrowing attention upon any aspect of it.
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- Alan Watts
Attain deeper understanding of personal motivations — your own and those of others
"I am a convinced pacifist and for that reason I am curious to understand what make normal people brandish a gun."
- Enzo Baldoni
Attain deeper understanding of institutional agendas, especially the ones that leaders won't admit
"Institutions are made up of individuals, of course, but the thing that makes an institution institutional is that no one person can direct it. The actions of an institution are the result of its many individual constituent parts, both acting in concert, and acting against one another.
In other words: institutional action is the result of its individuals resolving their conflicts. Institutional action is the net results of wheedling, horse-trading, solidarity, skullduggery, power-moves, trickery, coercion, rational argument, love, spite, ferocity, and indifference among the institution’s members."
— "Commentary by Cory Doctorow: Don’t Be Evil," Cory Doctorow, Locus Magazine, November 6, 2023
"Clearly, we wouldn't have invaded Iraq if its chief export was cauliflower or carrots."
- Robert Fisk
Identify the wrongs you want to right
"The first lesson that tragedy teaches (and that morality plays miss) is that all violence is an attempt to achieve justice, or what the violent person perceives as justice, for himself or for whomever it is on whose behalf he is being violent, so as to receive whatever retribution or compensation the violent person feels is "due" him or "owed" to him, or to those on whose behalf he is acting, whatever he or they are "entitled" to or have a "right" to; or so as to prevent those whom one loves or identifies with from being subjected to injustice. Thus, the attempt to achieve and maintain justice, or to undo or prevent injustice, is the one and only universal cause of violence.
- James Gilligan
Do not address wrongs with extreme violence
"It is hardly possible to imagine that in the atomic era war could be used as an instrument of justice.
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- Pope John XXIII
Acknowledge that the desire for violence is real
"It seems that when a society does not have natural processes (such as sex, death, and killing) before it, that society will respond by denying and warping that aspect of nature.
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- Dave Grossman
Acknowledge what kinds of violence you perpetrate in your daily life
"We all participate in violence daily. The only questions are our degree of awareness, and what we do with that awareness."
- Derrick Jensen
Think about who you really want to be
"For civilization to survive, the human race has to remain civilized. Tonight's very small exercise in logic from the Twilight Zone."
- Rod Serling
Be aware of how you conduct your relationships
"It seems almost incredible that we could have been at war this long without defining precisely who or what we are at war with. But such is the case, and it has never seemed an urgent matter to lawmakers."
- Caleb Carr
Acknowledge that there have been real enemies, past and present
”Innocence in our day is the hope that there 'are no enemies' ... To hang on to this picture of innocence, you must deny history. ... Hence so many of the new generation turn their backs on history as irrelevant; they do not like it, they are not part of it, they insist we are in a brand-new ball game with new rules. And they are completely unaware that this is the ultimate act of hubris.”
- Rollo May
Don't paint the world as 'us/them'
”The United States Secret Service has a dualistic worldview. There is the president, and then there are the people who could hurt, kill, maim, injure, or otherwise bother the president. They are known as ‘everyone else.’ It is an official term. It includes staff, audiences, family members, and sometimes pets.”
- David Kuo
Reject the 'us/them' shortcut to a sense of purpose
”Holy war intensifies the boundaries between Us and Them, satisfying the inherently human longing for a clear identity and a definite purpose in life, creating a seductive state of bliss.”
- Jessica Stern
Remember that the safeties and threats of the present may be different than those of the past
”We seem to feel somehow that because the hydrogen bomb has not killed us yet, it is never going to kill us. This is a dangerous assumption because it encourages the retention of traditional attitudes about world politics when our responsibility, in Dr. Chisholm's words, is nothing less than ‘to re-examine all of the attitudes of our ancestors and to select from those attitudes things which we, on our own authority in these present circumstances, with our knowledge, recognize as still valid in this new kind of world...'"
- Sen. J. William Fulbright
Emoting — e.g., being nostalgic or angry — isn't enough
Come together to discuss shared history realistically and challenge present injustice to move forward.
"Romanticizing the 1830s, despite the role chattel slavery played, the marginalization of women, and the forced displacement and persecution of Indigenous people is a useless and regressive fantasy. This does nothing to bring us together or challenge historical or present injustices. Simply hating the society we live in and wanting to escape isn’t enough to foster positive social change — maybe from a privileged white perspective, it is, but from the perspective of Black people, it falls painfully short. America cannot daydream its way forward; we have to be grounded, especially in terms of the way we discuss our shared history."
- Allison Wiltz
Allow that even that which seems inborn can be redirected
"...these two approaches [to the origin of violence, nature and nurture] are not mutually exclusive. Aggression is part of the basic equipment of men, but it is also culturally formed, exacerbated, and can be, at least in part, redirected.
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- Rollo May
Change your thinking
"We cannot solve the problems that we have created with the same thinking that created them."
- Albert Einstein
Let your new thoughts transform your actions
"Because when one person thinks fight! he or she finds a fight. One faction thinks war! and starts a war. One nation thinks nuclear! and approaches the abyss. And what of one nation which thinks peace, and seeks peace?"
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Dennis Kucinich
Change your toolbox
"The master's tools will never dismantle the master's house.
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- Audre Lorde
Do not launch the first strike
"Hitting first has always been the mark of evil. I don't think one great religious or spiritual thinker has said that it was OK. Everyone, from almost every tradition, agrees on three things. Rule 1: We are all family. Rule 2: It is immoral to hit first. Rule 3: You reap exactly what you sow. You cannot grow tulips from zucchini seeds, or peace from murder. And, it helps beyond words to plant bulbs in the dark of winter.
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-
Anne Lamott
Communicate what you know about yourself and listen to others
"People fail to get along because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don't know each other; they don't know each other because they have not communicated with each other."
- Martin Luther King, Jr.
Look into the real options and consequences, and challenge the way others frame them
”Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld aptly summarized the prevailing view in October 2001: 'We have two choices. Either we change the way we live, or we must change the way they live. We choose the latter.' If, today, this black-and-white perspective seems a trifle oversimplified, between 2002 and 2004, no politician of national stature had the wit or the gumption to voice a contrary view.”
- Andrew J. Bacevich
Go wider and challenge bigger frames of personal and national identity and goals
”In the Vietnam era, we watched a great nation descend into tragedy because of its inability to break the spell of such mythic metaphors as domino effect and containment of communism."
- Sam McKeen
Don't punish people who challenge your frame
”I asked why we sent missionaries to Africa but didn't have any contact with black people, or even black churches, in our own city.
I was told that we were all better off separated...Other whites said that blacks were happy with the way things were...And if they had problems, they probably deserved them...Some people told me that asking these questions would only get me into trouble. That proved to be the only honest answer I ever got in the white community.”
- Jim Wallis
Don't mistake a challenge to your ideology as a challenge to your existence
"Here, in Spain, a man is simply stood up against a wall and he gives up his entrails to the stones of the courtyard. You have been captured. You are shot. Reason: your ideas were not our ideas."
- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Don't insult others intentionally
“‘Raca,' the word for ‘fool’ that Jesus forbade people to use, is Aramaic for ‘empty.’ Words like that attempt to obliterate someone's existence.”
- Paul Ramsey
Don't insult others accidentally by attributing names and ideas to them
My colleague has said that he never offends other people's beliefs. What civilization on the face of this earth allows him to call other people by names they did not choose for themselves? Once he calls them Ahl al-Dhimma, another time he calls them the "People of the Book," and yet another time he compares them to apes and pigs, or he calls the Christians "those who incur Allah's wrath." Who told you they are "People of the Book"? They are not the People of the Book, they are people of many books. All the useful scientific books you have today are theirs, the fruit of their free and creative thinking. What gives you the right to call them "those who incur Allah's Wrath," or "those who have gone astray," and the come here and say that your religion commands you to refrain from offending the beliefs of others?
- Wafa Sultan
Don't project onto others
"...we have an eternal enemy, which is our ego. The tragic mistake is to identify that enemy with other people..."
- Michael Nagler
Improve your predictive skills and be willing to act on them
"Man has lost the capacity to foresee and forestall. He will end by destroying the earth."
- Albert Schweitzer
Require humility from leaders
"The ruler who wants to be above the people must speak of himself as below them.
If he wants to be ahead of the people, he must keep himself behind them.”
- Lao Tzu
Require humility from ourselves
"...we need to start that honesty in the closest place. It's a place no fascist can ever start, and if we do it, we'll differentiate ourselves from them in ways that will be sharp and clear and bright.
We start by finding and holding the blame in ourselves.
Fascism cannot accept blame within itself. It doesn't understand it when people do. It can't even comprehend such a thing."
— A.R. Moxon
Turn your beliefs into action
”Anyone can love peace, but Jesus doesn't say, 'Blessed are the peacelovers.' He says peacemakers.”
- Jim Wallis
Choose actions that have great effect on the world
”For these reasons such direct actions as the burning of draft cards probably does more to retard than to advance the views of those who take such action. The burning of a draft card is a symbolic act, really a form of expression rather than action, and it is stupid and vindictive to punish it as a crime. But it is also an unwise act, unwise because it is shocking rather than persuasive to most Americans and because it exposes the individual to personal risk without political reward.”
- Sen. J. William Fulbright
Be aware that group action can intensify or alter your personal beliefs
"The intensity of mob action has led some social critics to speculate on the theory of a 'collective mind' operating at the moment of violent mob destruction, that the participants are no longer themselves and are acting foreign to their experiences and beliefs. I contend that such mob action serves to reinforce belief... There is not a change in the basic structure of beliefs which mobilize the crowd into action; rather, there is a period of strain during which those beliefs manifest themselves in collective behavior."
- Trudier Harris
Pay attention to the results of your actions
"It's racist if the outcome...is hurting people of color. Whether or not it's intentional, that's the outcome."
- Gladys Gould
Think about how you affect real people, not just institutions or nations
“My years of experience in Jordan, and my current work with the United Nations and other international organizations, has convinced me that real security — security that is sustainable and genuine — must focus on the needs of human beings, not just nations. True security is not only a matter of protecting borders from military aggression, or achieving technological or economic dominance, but of providing a stable, safe, and healthy environment for all citizens — women, amen, and children — of all races and creeds to participate fully in economic, cultural, and political life. People must work together because no one — even the most wealthy and powerful country in the world — will enjoy true security if others in our interdependent world suffer injustice and deprivation. Given the global rise of extremism on all sides in recent years, it is very easy to turn inward, recoil from risk, and avoid reaching out to others. For all of our sakes, we can no longer afford to allow ourselves to be imprisoned by our fears and differences.”
- Queen Noor
Make a pathway to talk to your enemies
"If Bush insists on identifying all of the insurgents with al-Qaida, then there isn't anyone with whom we can negotiate."
- Joe Conason
Find a way to acknowledge and accept differences
"To encourage reconciliation, Rwanda has embarked on an experiment to change completely the way a new generation thinks about itself. Now, officially, no one is a Hutu or Tutsi; there are only Rwandans. Ethnicity, the genocide's alleged cause, is being outlawed."
- The Economist
Prepare for the perpetual challenges that differences bring
"The Indians and ourselves will long be at war. It has never ceased and possibly will not cease in the foreseeable future. What must be hoped for is not exactly 'peace,' but a creative tension. Peace does not create heroic achievement. There must be challenge that forces the best that is in us to emerge into its proper expression, challenge that brings about dimensions in human achievement that would not otherwise be attained. Just now, however, the disproportion in size and power seems to remove all possibility of truly creative relationships that would be neither destructive nor paternalistic. yet in the dialectic of human affairs, size and power eventually become self-destructive; the inequalities may eventually be leveled and the ancient fruitful combat relationships revived in a new setting."
- Thomas Berry
Transform your enemies into friends
"True security, as the Buddha said, comes not from defeating enemies but from not having any..."
-
Michael Nagler
Focus on positive feelings of belonging to a group
"We-feeling is good for your health. It lowers your heart rate, reduces stress hormones, makes you sleep better and think more clearly."
-
David Berreby
See peace as a precondition for human rights
Peace is a civil right which makes other human rights possible. Peace is the precondition of our existence. Peace permits our continued existence.
- Dennis Kucinich
See peace as the continued actualization of human rights
"Among individuals, as among nations, peace is the respect of the others’ rights."
- Benito Juarez
Don't let someone else's 'talking points' confuse you or polarize your group
"We will have some rebuilding to do after this war. We all know it. The destruction is devastating. We will have to start with our collective intelligence. It is getting blasted. The collateral damage has been ugly. ... I hate this war because it makes the country I love look scared and stupid. I hate it because we went through a laundry list of a half dozen reasons to invade Iraq and we never seemed sure which one was going to hold up. I hate it because it seems it was a done deal months ago and all the debate and diplomacy have been deceptive window dressing. But I hate it most for what it is doing to us. It is turning us mean and snarling and suspicious of each other, and there is no good reason for it. I think we are being set up and being played."
- Bob Kerr
Know that anything you choose freely resists those who would control you
Any neutrality, indeed any spontaneously given friendship, is from the standpoint of totalitarian domination just as dangerous as open hostility, precisely because spontaneity as such, with its incalculability, is the greatest of all obstacles to total dominion over man.
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- Hannah Arendt
Persist in what you know is right despite the attitudes of your opponents
"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.
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- M. K. Gandhi
Allow space for sudden insight
"'We just woke up.' After hearing the same response from gang members making truces in other cities, the meaning of the young man's words began to dawn on me. I recalled that waking up is a spiritual metaphor for conversion."
- Jim Wallis
Admit that peace is hard work and the work never ends
"We have thought of peace as the passive and war as the active way of living. The opposite is true. War is not the most strenuous life. It is a kind of rest-cure compared to the task of reconciling our differences."
- Mary Parker Follett
Be ready to 'wait and see'
"And from her [the city of Ashdod] we shall see what will flower when peace and a little repose finally come.
Patience, I say. There is no shortcut."
- Amos Oz
Commit to others' survival
"I want them to have trans elders to turn to, and I want them to have the chance to become trans elders themselves."
- Hil Malatino
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